Transparent and Free

When a person decides to go under the knife, it’s never an easy decision. No matter the type of surgery chosen, there are major risks associated with that choice. Many people hold off from having life-sustaining treatment because they fear the unknown. Even when your surgeon comes highly recommended and has performed the procedure hundreds of times, there is still some level of hesitancy that exists.

More and More, elective surgeries have become just as normal as a routine checkup. Both men and women flock to popular cities and countries to obtain the perfect body. Social media has aided in the acceptability of these procedures by normailzing them and the surgeons who perform them. On any given day you can scroll your social feed and see doctors going live doing proceedures and making reels and funny videos. Personally if you like it, i love it. Im a firm believer in people doing things to make themselves happy. But why the secrecy around bariatric surgery?

In August of 2022, I began my weight loss journey and scheduled a consultation with the bariatric surgery team at my local hospital. I remember that first visit like it was yesterday, my palms were sweaty, I was sweaty and I still wasn’t sure if I was making the right decision. A lot of my uncertainty came from the voices in my own circle and community. For some reason, bariatric surgery has been perceived as “the easy way” out or “ the lazy route” and i’m here to tell you, it’s anything but.

Having weight loss surgery has entered my mind several times throughout the years but as someone who has never had any major surgery and has only been in the hospital for childbirth, I quickly chickened out. Then on top of seeing the journey of so many other women. Some were successful, some lost then regained, then some hid the fact that they had bariatric surgery and presented as if their dramatic weight loss was from diet, detox tea, and exercise alone. And it made me wonder, why hide it, why feel embarrassed about a choice you made that could possibly save your life? Why be so consumed by the opinions of others that you present a false narrative for fear of judgment? It’s sad that women feel ashamed to talk about bariatric surgery while others openly talk about elective procedures like BBLs, Breast Augmentation, and the infamous Mommy Makeovers.

I’ve tried everything from Atkins to Keto to Slim Fast to Jenny Craig, hell I even gave Weight Watchers a try. I spent 6 days a week in the gym with a trainer and still plateaued at 290 lbs. I was tired. Tired of carrying the excess weight, tired of my feet hurting, tired of my knees aching, and tired of being tired all the damn time. So I started researching the different procedures, and surgeons, and I started looking for stories of women who looked like me, women who were sharing their journey, and women who I felt represented where I was in life. I wasn’t depressed about my weight, I wasn’t hiding my body in baggy clothes and I damn sure wasn’t lacking in the confidence department. I just was tired of being fat! Where were the women who also woke up one day and decided that they too had had enough? The sad truth……. there were very few. It was like a taboo or something.

My decision to share my journey is from the frustration I felt during my research phase. I decided I was going to be transparent and be present in the hopes that my story could be the help that someone else needs. From the moment I shared that I was having surgery, I was met with support, opinions, and DMs asking why “because I look good the way I was”. My favorite question, which got asked a lot was “What does your husband think” Being asked this by strangers didnt bother me as I know they don’t know me personally or the dynamic of my marriage but to be asked this by people who know that I didn’t need his approval about my choices for my body was crazy to me. Some people that I have been friends with for years became distant and that was ok. I knew that I would walk this journey all by myself if I had to because, for the first time in my life, I was putting myself first. It was really sad to watch people transfer their fears and insecurities onto me, or at least attempt to. This made me even more willing to be a voice in the community.

I was rolled into the operating room on Tuesday, March 21 @11:17am and my life was forever changed. This journey over the past 6 months has been just that, a journey. One thing for certain, I wouldn’t change it for the world. Being transparent has helped several women I’ve encountered make their decision to start their journies, also several women had shared that they had been scared to share their stories for fear of judgment. On the flip side, I’ve made new friends and I found the person that I lost so many years ago. I found me. Even though I have moments of body dysmorphia or disbelief I know that I made the very best choice for me and I will plaster it across the highest billboard.

My name is De’Shantel Odom-Brown and I had Gastric Bypass surgery on March 21, 2023, and as of today, I have lost 91 lbs. Damn! I can’t believe I just said that. I promise to be an open book and share the highs and lows of my weight loss journey and to always be truthful about my experiences. Please follow my journey on my Instagram page and if you have any question feel free to ask. Respectfully of course.

*Keep in mind that no 2 journies are the same and everyone has a different story*

Period with a Purpose!

It was just another late night of scrolling on Instagram and I came across an ad for Cora. Cora offers organic cotton period supplies in a subscription service. In this day and age where we order everything from cars to groceries online, why not our personal needs from a company specializing in them? Cora offers both pads and tampons as well as liners, body cloths and bladder leak pads.

The first thing I loved about the company is that they offered your first month of supplies for free all you have to do is cover the shipping which was minuscule. You start with an in depth survey that ask you a series of question pertaining to your period and your product preference. At the end of the survey they put together a custom kit and then allow you to add items such as liners and body cloths (individual or pouch) for an additional $2. After your trial, if you decide to continue your next shipment will contain a 3 month supply for around $39 and after doing the math its cheaper that what I usually would spend over the course of three months.

So all that aside let me tell you what really sold me on Cora. For every one month supply of pads/tampons you purchase, a monthly supply of pads are given to a school age girl in Africa and India to allow them to continue to go to school during their menstrual cycle. These young women are forced to miss school during their periods because they do not have adequate supplies to wear. They are left using plastic bags, rags and other items which could possibly leave them at risk for infection. This company’s mission not only brings supplies to these young ladies but health education as well, and because of the supplies they receive they see a decrease in dropouts among pubescent girls in these countries. Talk about a mission! I felt empowered. Knowing that I had a direct effect on a young woman hundreds of miles away and that my purchase would help her continue her education, it was a no brainer.

Now, I know you’re wondering “Are the products any good”? I’m in love. So I received my free monthly supply fairly quickly, I decided to go with the tampon kit with added liners and bamboo body cloths. When I open the package everything was neatly packed and there was a stock-card explaining what was inside and what my next shipment would contain. There was also some more information about the company and their mission. Now their products are made of 100% organic cotton and are hypoallergenic and vegan. It also was stated that by using organic cotton and chemical free tampons they would lessen your menstrual cramps and that was something I was looking forward to. The box was comprised of a mixture of super and super+ tampons, cloths and liners. By the 5th day of my cycle I knew that I was going to tell every woman I knew about Cora and I was going to get my daughter a subscriptions as well.

My sample Box

Now fast forward to me receiving my 3 month supply, I decided to go with a pad subscription and a tampon subscription because it gets real over here. lol At the time, they didn’t have a combined subscription that offered both but low and behold they do now. So I received a 3 month supply of both pads and tampons with carrying cases for each plus wipes and liners.

I knew after my trial month I really liked the product but I wanted to see if I would make it the entire 3 months without having to go to my local drug store. But here a look at what I received!

So here we are at the end of my 3 moths and these by far are the best tampons I’ve ever used. I had little to no leaks and they were very comfortable. based on my profile quiz I was sent a mix of super and super plus which is very accurate. Now I can’t lie I was not a fan of the pads I’m not sure if its the fact that I received the ones with no wings or what.They also weren’t as adhesive as I’m use to, they shifted a lot and that’s something I not have happen because it’s going to be a whole accident. lol

Since making the switch to the organic cotton tampons I can say that my cramps are so much better. I cant tell you the relief that I’ve experienced over the past several months. Once I really learned about all the chemicals in traditional tampons It was a no brainer that I was #Teamorganiccotton from here on out.

Listen head over Instagram and visit Cora’s Page and see for yourself. These products are De’Starr approved. Help your body and help someones else in the process.

“I am my sister’s keeper”